10 Thing Men Wish Women Knew

This post is in response the the article posted here:
http://yahoo.match.com/y/article.aspxarticleid=11865&TrackingID=526103&BannerID=1338500

I found this article to be, well, stupid. So I responded to it with my own list. Best if you read the original first, then mine. That way you will see that each numbered one of mine, responds directly to the identically numbered one of the original article.

1. We play the “waiting game” because you send mixed messages. If we call too soon, you think us desperate, if we don’t call soon enough, you think we are uninterested or playing a game. Here’s the deal women, you play games, men usually just do what interests them at the time. You want us to think of you when you’re not around or want us to call you sooner, how about you call us? How about you stop playing the “waiting for him to call” game. We are not phone people in general, so when you call, don’t sit there and expect us to want to chat; make plans with us and we will chat when we are together.

2. If you want to date casually, or are looking for a relationship, don’t wait for us to tell you what we are looking for, we won’t do that. Like I said, if we are with you and spending time with you, that means we have interest in you. Stop blaming us every time YOU get a mixed message when half the time messages are NOT being sent by us. Most of the time, we mean what we say. We are logical human beings, so stop interpreting what we say to mean something other then what we have said, that’s just stupid.

3. We do not give two shits about fashion, for the most part. All we care about is if it comfortable or appropriate for the situation. The ONLY men who care are douche bags who dress up to go clubbing trying to get laid. Strangely enough, those are the men you go home with…wanna talk about sending mixed signals still?

4. We do not always want to spend our hard earned money on you. We like to spend it on ourselves too. So if you call us cheap because we don’t buy you things, get a job and buy your own crap. On a date, we will pay, which means ladies, you don’t get a say so on where we eat or what we do. Most of the time we will do ok, beside women, I thought you wanted to get to know us, not our wallets.

5. Women, we just want to be left alone if we are not doing something together. And we know that pisses you off. Here’s what you really need to know here: We think that if we do not spend every waking hour we can attending to your desires, you will go bat shit crazy on us with your over emotional nonsense. Here’s the kicker; a lot of the times, we are right about that. You want your independence, but for some reason get all pissy if we leave you alone for too long.

6. You are not as smart or intuitive as you think. Again, you read signals where there aren’t any. You think we are as emotionally complex as you. We are not. We lie because that is human nature, so get off your high horses and pedestals you have put yourself on and admit you lie just as much, if not more then men.

7. We don’t want you to be our mother. It is YOU who almost always wants to assume that role. You see flaws in us and start playing mother on your own. This is actually really annoying to men. It makes us wanna choke you. So stop doing it, especially seeing you claim you don’t want to.

8. We don’t give a shit about the little things. You want us to notice them, point them out at the time. We will remember them…hopefully, come time to “impress” you.

9. Men are not “quick” to end relationships. We actually think about it before we even show “signs” that we are considering it. Again, we do not “signal” the end, we just end it. Its practical and more efficient that way, and if it hurts your little ol’ feelings, get over it. That’s life. Do not lose respect for us for doing this, that’s stupid. Lose respect for the man who drags on relationships long after they lose interest, only to make it harder on you later when they actually do end it.

10. We think you live by a double standard, and we are just dealing with that as best we can. We know, “we need to talk” means you wanna bitch about us to us. We know that in order to make you feel loved by us, that we need to show it. We know all the crap on the article that spawned this blog. Unfortunately for you, you think that because we ignore some of your stupid “things to know” we do not know. Sometimes its just that we don’t care enough about the relationship to follow your standards.